PARENTING
"See a child differently, you see a different child." - Dr. Stuart Shanker
Conscious parenting is anything but traditional. We look at the child as a whole, needing connection above all else. Now, of course, our children display behaviors that aren't so desirable. It is in these behaviors that we will find the true needs of your child.
In our sessions, we discuss what parenting issues are currently arising for you. We dive deep into the feelings that are going on inside of you; if you are like most of my parent clients, you probably feel:
- Exhausted from trying to get your child to listen
- Frustrated that your child isn't responding to discipline
- Angry at your co-parent or partner for not parenting like you
- Worried your child might not be accepted because of their differences
- Scared, your child will never change their behavior
- Disappointed in yourself for not being able to raise a "good" child
There is one thing you must remember: Compassion for yourself.
As a parent in the current world we live in, the constant chatter of having an exceptionally gifted child is bound to have an effect on us. We push our children out of fear that they won't be someone special.
Once you begin the process of conscious parenting, the way you look at your child will be forever changed. If you're like most of my parent clients, you'll begin to feel:
- Connected to your child on a deeper level
- Comforted in knowing your child is whole
- Calm rather than reactive to your child's big feelings
- Confident in the boundaries you set for your child
- Cautious with who you allow into your child's life
- Grounded in knowing you parent out of love rather than fear
- Secure with your own self, showing your child true self-love
- Attuned to your child's needs, discerning if they require connection or correction
THE NEW MOM NORMAL
The new mom life is anything but normal. Culture tells us the new mom should be flooded with unconditional love, forever pouring out with gratitude that they’ve earned the title of mother. Yet, most new moms rarely feel this euphoric state.
The process of becoming a mother is filled with excitement of the unknown. What we aren't prepared for is the complete identity shift that comes with this new chapter.
Becoming a mother requires us to carve out room in our lives for so much more than the needs of another human. Our bodies belong to another, our time belongs to another even our sleep is no longer ours. We also shift our identity in relationships, making time for your child but also your partner, your family, your friends and your work. We adjust to staying at home or hiring a stranger to care for your child while you go back to work. The adjustments we have to make are endless and it's no surprise we need support from others to adjust to this new normal.
If you're like the other mothers in my practice, after our sessions you'll begin to feel:
- Confident in your way of parenting
- Connected to your inner knowing of what your child needs
- Comfortable taking time to be alone, without your child
- Calm even when you aren't able to soothe your child immediately
- Careful with who you share your time and child with
- Carefree in others opinions of your child or your parenting
- Accepting of yourself in your new role as mom
Relationship
Our external relationships reflect our inner relationship; our inner value and worth. This begins with you. Any relationship with any other human is going to be messy from time to time and going to need a little extra input in order to thrive.
Self
At the core of it all, your relationship to yourself is the foundation for your interaction with every other being and expereince in your life. Coming into intimate connection to the truth of who you are heals and elevates every other encounter.
